the ambiguity of beauty.

“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder”. Can we really argue rationally about an irrational subject such as beauty?

Philosopher Immanuel Kant once said that if we think something is beautiful, then we want everyone to agree with us. That is true, although the chances of that perspiring into a reality is unlikely. Our individual perceptions of beauty are a reflection of our own personality and individuality.  Continue reading

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hiding behind our secrets.

We all have secrets. Be it secrets we strictly want to keep confidential or secrets that we want to let out but are afraid to do so. I’m going to focus on the latter. Your secret may be telling someone you love her for the first time, or telling someone that you lied to them, or telling your child that they’re adopted; any of the hard conversations we have throughout our lives. Whatever your secret is, the experience of revealing that secret is universal. And it’s terrifying. We all feel it. But we have to do it.  Continue reading

a personal (r)evolution.

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What brings about the changes from what we were in the past to who we are today or what we will be in the future?

If personal growth is quick and sudden it can change everything. You can end up being someone you don’t really know anything about, and the things you have now are absent in that person you have become – like a different person altogether. It’s the kind of change that, when you really think about it, you’ve always been wanting; someone who exercises more, is more driven and goal-orientated, makes an active effort to travel more, or whatever you’ve been wanting to change for so long.  Continue reading

battling big emotions.

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Many of us have gone through times when we’ve experienced big emotions, and we know exactly what the source of these emotions are, rationally, and we know why we shouldn’t be feeling that way.

It seems that we may have a good grasp on it, and yet, that knowledge or consciousness of it; the rational part, doesn’t do sh*t. And that sucks. Especially when you know exactly how you should be feeling or thinking about something and yet you’re not. This can then culminate to where you’re blaming yourself for not being able to use that information to make yourself feel better.  Continue reading

perceptions.

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“all books are judged by their covers until they are read”

How do you feel perceived?

I feel like a lot of people perceive me to be young-minded and not capable of my accomplishments or dreams in life. But I think that’s because I am usually quite cheerful and happy and that can come across as naïve sometimes. I almost feel that to establish an assertive figure I have to be hardened to the core, cynical and tough. Why has that become something associated with authority?  Continue reading

ambitions to be influential.

ambitions to be influential.

Having spent several months applying for PhD’s and research positions across the UK and Europe, I have come across a concept that has plagued me to my core: What do you do if you’re never going to matter?

How do you get over the crushing weight of knowing that you’re never going to influence the world in a significant way? Isn’t that an innate thing that we all aspire to achieve? That we want to have that impact on the world?  Continue reading

the hurdles of isolation.

So I was talking to my friend – let’s call him John – during the build up to Valentine’s Day. From one conversation to another, we got onto the subject of being alone. Not explicitly in the sense of not having someone to love and celebrate this day with, but more along the lines of not being around others, be it friends, family or loved ones.

No one is comfortable in being alone.

I have that problem. I fear of being stuck in limbo; not being able to move forward, or worse, failing to be the person I want to be.  Continue reading